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Male Anger: Counting to 10 is a Band-aid

Counting to 10 isn’t a substitute for identifying and eliminating the source of a man’s pain that makes him rage. This dubious folk wisdom merely allows anger to simmer in a man’s psyche, and while it may be temporarily knocked down after a 10 count, it won’t stay down for the count because its cause hasn’t been identified. Counting to 10 is a band-aid at best, and at worst can prevent men from learning to move beyond anger.

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